A few years back, if I asked myself this question, I guess I wouldn’t even have understood what it meant!! Thank God, I do today!
Have you ever wondered what will it take to buy oneself a long and happy married life? I always wonder..
When I was just married, I could feel the romance in the air & after almost 3 years of being married, I sometimes have to strive hard to make us feel the same. N yet I still wish n know from the bottom of my heart, that even after 50 or 60 years, my marriage would be this way..
So I wonder, what was it that made us stick to each other when we were newly married.. We were getting to know each other, we had no expectations of any sort, all that we longed for was to spend time together in a beautiful way.Knowing all this, how easy is it to create the same magic now n make sure it lasts forever?
Its not really that tough if I can get myself to do one small thing..n that is feeling free to be in my husband’s shoes!!
When I do, I see that he is so loving that he can easily replace anger with love, forgive me for all the crap I say (that I don’t mean) when I’m angry n also forget all that. Wow!!! I can easily see that he is different from me.
What matters to me, may not really matter to him n when he says no to that stuff (could be movies I wanna watch or go shopping, may be), he doesn’t say NO to me, but says No to that stuff..
So I just have to understand him, just like I expect others to, when I am being forced to do something I don’t like doing. I do so cuz my freedom matters so much to me.. So when it matters to me, shouldn’t it be easy for me to know, how the other person feels, when he is forced…
In fact, this practice of feeling how different the world looks, when I’m in the other’s shoes, works with not just my hubby, but with everyone else. It just suddenly feels lighter to see it the way the other person sees it & then respect the difference & not make such a big issue out of it 🙂
Wanna try this? It really works wonders!! Be my guest n feel free to try this out, with one of your loved ones..
I’l feel blessed if you take another step n tell me how it feels:)