The easy way out!!

So often unknowingly we pick the easy choice out!! We are so unaware or rather totally working in an auto pilot mode that we seldom even catch ourselves choosing the easy way out!!

Today I had a tough time getting change to pay the rickshaw guy!! I had to pay him 30 n only had a 100!! He denied having any change so I asked so many people around, politely but everyone was kinda unaffected!!

I almost thought of giving the rick guy the 100 but before that he took some effort and paid me the change!!

For a moment I felt so pissed at all of them! Was about to feel the anger within when it struck me that so many times I’ve felt lazy when someone has asked for change, and so many times I’ve been indifferent..

That awareness brought me back to feeling gratitude for the availability of change and also gratitude for the awareness that saved me some time wasted (in getting angry and cooling down too)

I felt sorry for all those times when I’ve resisted even looking into my wallet and shown unwillingness to help 😦

Surely il be more aware next time and not choose the easy option out!! Easy options always come with excuses, excuses that justify us the choice of the easy option..

This awareness does bring me a lot of hope, hope of being a better human being , one who is less lazy and one who chooses the tough choice 🙂

Choosing the tough route does bring some strength 🙂
Surprised to feel the ton loads of gratitude that fills my tiny heart 🙂

Have you ever sensed a severe Energy Drain?

A typical drain of energy, may be when you met someone or when you visited someone’s place ? Or may be soon after you entered into someone’s work space or may be during any meeting?

After you move away from the work space or you say goodbye to this person, you end up feeling really low and depressed (not the kind you feel when you’re in love ;)) and all attempts to pick up your energy seems in vain?

Have you experienced this ‘not so pleasant’ kind of energy drain?

I’ve experienced it so many times!! A severe energy drain after which I kinda feel depressed – unknowingly n unintentionally. Can’t pick myself up!

I used to wonder, why this happens!! And just few days back, I realized, I can very much, stop this energy drain!!

Wanna share with you, what worked for me:

~ Just reminding yourself, that your energy lies with you and no one can make you feel low- works wonders!! Just creating an awareness around your energy, seeing the energy surrounding you, helps!!

~ Sometimes, I’ve sensed a serious energy drain around certain kind of people who are needy! May be they need attention, may be they need a listening ear, may be they need a reason to smile – may be they just need some love!

Being empathetic towards these people, trying to understand their need -super helps!! When they need something, if they don’t get it, they may be pulling it out of our energy.. Just by being in their shoes and choosing to support them, ceases the energy drain..

Its like if someone steals from our wallet, we feel hurt! But if we knowingly give some money to someone, we don’t mind that -Right?

~ Sometimes, I find myself totally helpless when someone constantly keeps whining and complaining! I sense a serious energy drain. Previously, I thought that there’s a kind of incompleteness in this person’s life, that the person keeps projecting in the form of complaints / constantly highlighting some kind of lack..

May be all they need is some acknowledgement! Their due in the form of hugs, more love, more attention or just about asking them what they want, rather than waiting for them to ask for it..

Works like magic! Especially with senior citizens:) Its a treat to see that they do change cuz all they need is love and support!

Protect your energy by focusing on it!!

Don’t we all need love? However, one may say, they don’t, we all know- We need Love! And a starting point to receive love is when we start giving it to others! That’s how I’ve stopped my energy drain!

I may sound crazy here but its working!! I killed my fears by replacing them with love 🙂

Have you ever experienced an energy drain? how do you deal with it?

Let me know 🙂

Do I feel free to be in your shoes?

A few years back, if I asked myself this question, I guess I wouldn’t even have understood what it meant!! Thank God, I do today!

Have you ever wondered what will it take to buy oneself a long and happy married life? I always wonder..

When I was just married, I could feel the romance in the air & after almost 3 years of being married, I sometimes have to strive hard to make us feel the same. N yet I still wish n know from the bottom of my heart, that even after 50 or 60 years, my marriage would be this way..

So I wonder, what was it that made us stick to each other when we were newly married.. We were getting to know each other, we had no expectations of any sort, all that we longed for was to spend time together in a beautiful way.Knowing all this, how easy is it to create the same magic now n make sure it lasts forever?

Its not really that tough if I can get myself to do one small thing..n that is feeling free to be in my husband’s shoes!!

When I do, I see that he is so loving that he can easily replace anger with love, forgive me for all the crap I say (that I don’t mean) when I’m angry n also forget all that. Wow!!! I can easily see that he is different from me.

What matters to me, may not really matter to him n when he says no to that stuff (could be movies I wanna watch or go shopping, may be), he doesn’t say NO to me, but says No to that stuff..

So I just have to understand him, just like I expect others to, when I am being forced to do something I don’t like doing. I do so cuz my freedom matters so much to me.. So when it matters to me, shouldn’t it be easy for me to know, how the other person feels, when he is forced…

In fact, this practice of feeling how different the world looks, when I’m in the other’s shoes, works with not just my hubby, but with everyone else. It just suddenly feels lighter to see it the way the other person sees it & then respect the difference & not make such a big issue out of it 🙂

Wanna try this? It really works wonders!! Be my guest n feel free to try this out, with one of your loved ones..

I’l feel blessed if you take another step n tell me how it feels:)