Are We FOOLS, to buy solutions?

Be it a weight loss program or an English speaking class or any program/class that helps us to pick ourselves up, the underlying emotion behind us joining it is- We are not good at it so let the expert help us out!!

Why should we feel that we need an expert to help us out? Relying on an expert is not the problem here as much as the ‘not relying on ourselves’ bit..

I loved reading the quick read- Screw it, Let’s do it- by Richard Branson. A statement that resonated deeply within me and has stayed for long is – ‘You don’t have to go to art school to be a fashion designer. Join a fashion company and push the broom. Work your way up’

Which means that being unable to join an art school shouldn’t stop an aspiring fashion designer to move ahead. A person who has the fire within, will do it, come what may! Right?

So many times, I see myself holding this as an excuse to disallow me from progress. I am too passionate about mehendi & I’ve always felt that I’m not good at it, cuz I’m not trained!! And the fact that I’ve not spent a bomb on getting trained in bridal mehendi, stops me from getting good at it..

Can you believe me?? I love mehendi!! If I work at it, why can’t I get good at it? Why do I need someone to tell me what I have to do? Why do I need someone to point out my areas of improvement?? I am sure I can do it myself..

We are the best ones to help ourselves out! Am so lucky to be a Coach, cuz this profession is based on the foundation that all our clients have solutions inside them!! A coach simply supports clients in their journey of figuring out their solutions & supports them when they take action related to these ‘Self found solutions’

I see so many people around me, waiting to get solutions, in order to sort themselves out!!! They feel so uncomfortable at the idea of figuring out their own solutions!! They would rather ask for solutions/ advice to ten people around rather than listen to themselves..

Be it people who feel they need to improve their communication skills, or people who want to improve their spoken English -They will wait to get trained or they’ll join a course…

and my only question is – Why????

Are we FOOLS to buy solutions?

Just imagine this day in ur life…

Just imagine this day in your life…..

when u have been gifted with a 20,000 rupees shopping voucher!! Ure very excited!! You think about all that can be done with 20,000 Rs & suddenly it strikes you, that its not real cash but it’s a shopping voucher.

The value of 20,000 Rs. on the voucher continues to excite you n  after thinking about it for a while you decide that you will use this voucher to enhance your wardrobe!! We always have flowing wardrobes, with clothes popping out of it..yet, we still think its a good idea to add on to that flow 🙂 No Probs… Just imagine…

U go to the biggest super market around n u r thrilled thinking about the opportunity of being able to spend Rs. 20,000 on buying clothes!! Wowww… 20,000 does mean a lot, you say in your mind..

My reader friends may disagree with me about all that ive mentioned so far..No probs..Ure losing nothing by imagining my story.. So just imagine..

U’ve selected a lot of stuff!! Very beautiful n expensive clothes.. You go to the billing counter and royally display the voucher. The guy smiles happily at you n packs all the clothes nicely and hands it over to you!! How are you feeling right now??

Gr8!!! Thrilled?? Very excited… Woww very beautiful!! I can feel ur excitement.

Now there’s a small catch here. This mega superstore did not have any trial rooms n u had to select all the stuff based on your judgement of size!!

Unfortunately or not.. all the clothes u bought don’t seem to b fitting u well.. I know I know … youre already disagreeing with me BIG TIME and have counter arguements ready to strike me with!! Chillax friends…Just be in the shoes of this person n think about the situation!! How do you feel??

Angry!! Frustrated!! U feel u wasted a lot of ur time! U feel u shud not have got excited thinking about the new stuff that wud be housed by ur wardrobe!! Ure surely feeling very upset n whats goin on in ur mind?

Are you cursing the person who gifted you the voucher in the first place? Are u saying “Why did he have to gift this to me..I was so better off without it.. ”

Why curse that poor guy? He gifted it with a hope tat ul feel very happy!! Its sad that you dint end up feeling good..

Now imagine… just few days back u had the opportunity of visiting ur tailor! He had noted down your measurements on a piece of paper. This paper happened to be with you when you were in the shopping store. N cuz of that, u were able to buy so many clothes which are of course fittin u so well..

Now how do u feel?? Are you in any mood of now blaming the guy who gifted you the voucher? Im sure you’ll call him and thank him for his generosity!

Okay story’s over!! Whats the moral?

Knowing your measurements made you select the perfect stuff, n you admired the person’s generosity cuz he gifted you the voucher!

Not knowing your measurements made you select the stuff that wasnt perfect for you, n you hated and cursed the person who gifted you the voucher!!

The person who was generous enough to gift something valuable, never changed his stance!! He always intended to make you happy!! Then why should we blame him friends!!

Lets look at real life now. This story is not hypothetical.. We do this all the time in our lives.. Buying clothes is very very easy n thats not the case with our life!!

When we’re stuck up in the wrong job, wrong city, with the wrong spouse,into wrong relationships, n anything tats not working for us.. What do we do? We blame the almighty!! Dont we do it? He just gifts us with opportunities, that are waiting to get converted into successes!!

Lets face the truth!! WE DONT KNOW OUR MEASUREMENTS!!! and all the time, we make decisions based on our ‘so called size judgements’.. and then do what?

Blame the Almighty!! So very easy!!! … it just puts us out of action..He did it to me.. He doesnt want me to be happy!!

What have you done to be HAPPY??? Give me one good action that u’ve taken towards your happiness…

Does this make you think? Im included in the audience n it did make me think!!

Im getting to know my MEASUREMENTS!! What about YOU?