Choose to be hollow, not guilty!!

  
I love the book, ‘no time for karma’. I can’t quote anything from the book, but if I got to mention stuff that I love bout it, it would be the funda that whatever is happening now is happening for a reason. If I’m troubled by some xyz people, they were meant to trouble me. If I goofed up big time, I was supposed to goof up!

Whatever happens is happening cuz it has to happen. After it happens, there’s absolutely no point in sulking or regretting it. The max we can do here, is try n listen. What does the situation, person, our approach, our response/ reaction say? Does it point us somewhere?

Sometimes we got to feel hollow. Allow the divine will to flow through us like the beautiful flute of Shri Krishna. The music would flow through it, yet the divinity participating in was crucial too 🙂

So these times, especially from the past, where we feel we could’ve done better, are the times that we got to leave behind. Allow them to categorize under divine will, let them make you feel hollow as if you didn’t cause that hurt, or you didn’t get hurt, or you didn’t behave that way but it was divine will doing it through you. 

Whatever remains is only the present and a deep faith that we are on the right track. Divine will, is gonna make us do stuff inconsistent to who we are at times, and we are glad to be a part of this show. 

With this trust n faith in my heart, it’s me signing off.

Lotsa love n light.

Shraddha

Letting yourselves down? No chance!! Here’s 3 reasons why :-)

There is no such thing as letting oneself down! Why? Here are 3 straight reasons:

1. The picture in your mind, of how things should be is just a picture. It’s not a reading from the future for you to rate the present as ‘really bad!!’ If you knew the future, which said at age 25 you’d own a Ferrari, and you’re 25, still depending on local transport- okay you goofed up dude. But NO! You don’t know the future so relax

2. If you always performed above expectation, your life would be BORING!! What kinda growth are you expecting if you’re always satisfied with yourself? Sometimes, not getting what we want leads us to jumping higher, leads us to better stuff! So if you’re not happy with the outcomes, keep doing your best.

3. You chose to be who you now are, exactly as you now are! 

This is who you most wanted to be. So you can’t be goofing things up, even if they appear that way. There’s a growth trajectory you’re following because of all the pleasant and unpleasant situations you’re coming across. If you’d eliminate some of the unpleasant situations, I’m afraid your growth trajectory goes for a toss!

  
We deserve our own love the most! I feel, getting past the hurt caused by another person is easier as compared to getting past the hurt we cause for ourselves. All the negative self talk only goes to destroy our self esteem.

We are beautiful souls, totally worthy of all the love in this world. A negative outcome is the last thing to prompt us to feel that we let ourselves down!!

There is no such thing like that!! Everything is happening just as we consciously chose it to. Love yourselves and keep going!!

Love

Shraddha

‘x’ number of things, ‘y’ people do!!! No.. don’t do…

Let’s face it!! That beautiful space we go to for a tiny break is the fb app on our phones. We are scrolling, sharing, reading, liking stuff here almost all the time.

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Articles like these come as a refreshing break. More often than not, we are reading any and every article that seems or sounds like our help to get better. We are taking those quizzes to know our IQ, EQ, which celebrity we look like, our strengths, our secrets..list is long..

It is interesting! Curiosity isn’t bad!! Yeah but you know what I think?

We read all this stuff all the time. It does boost our esteem when we see we resemble a great looking star or our age is guessed incorrectly (like we would love to hear). Its great to feel great about ourselves!! But why do we need these articles to tell us all that stuff?

My experience with reading such stuff has been that I tend to look at all the stuff I’m not. The first thought that comes to my head is inadequacy. If the 22 things that beautiful women have in common, aren’t those that I do, there’s a thought that says ‘so you’re not beautiful. Forget it’.

I’ve traveled this rough road hard enough to know that I am beautiful in my own ways & that only I can allow myself to believe ‘I’m not beautiful’.

But what about others? The naive who have yet to figure what beauty or confidence or whatever..is all about.

As a new mom, I also used to read a lot about being mommy and what other moms do. I saw that its easy to feel guilty about the stuff you’re not doing rather than feel happy about the stuff that’s working for you.

Unless we really tune our antennas to pick that good stuff, we should be thinking twice about what we are reading online. At least that’s what I do.

Cuz, this stuff has an effect on our subconscious. What we are seeing/ reading/ doing is constantly shaping us without our awareness.

That’s what I think! What do you think? No offense towards anyone who enjoys reading these articles. Simply a thought put forward or maybe a question “Are these articles really serving you?”

That traitor you’ve got to kick!!

Yeah, helps you feel safe as he stabs you in the back, not once or twice but constantly on a regular basis. Makes you feel special in the most ugliest of ways, ensures that you not only look bad but feel bad as well, and is your safest bet to jump in for all the stuff that’s unhealthy for you. Yeah!! That traitor is your so called ‘best buddy’ & you got to kick him outta your life!!

If you’ve not guessed it this far, probably you’re the one who needs to kick him right away! Who?

Guilt!!! Yeah!

You decide to enroll for that Zumba class & after a few weeks you lose track. You choose to maintain a strict diet & in few days you feel like hitting on those desserts. You choose to spend more time with your kid than your phone & in few days your phone turns out dearer. You choose to finish that assignment much before that deadline but you let yourself off the hook..

So what!!! You are okay! You should be okay! But you’re not?

Cuz this traitor, simply makes you hog onto those desserts every single day, cuz you broke the rule once. It makes sure you ditch your exercise regime, cuz you slept in one day.

This traitor simply makes you feel sorry for the ‘rule-breaking’ and helps you continue on that path. Simply by helping you feel sorry each and every time.

How does feeling sorry help you? Just makes you feel safe! Helps you feel adequate for all that unhealthy stuff you’ve given entry to.

As against feeling guilty, why not take action!

Action on the other hand, gives you positive reinforcement. Take one small baby step in the right direction, especially when you’ve broken the rule! Feel great instead of sorry, cuz you’ve taken that little break today when you’ve chosen to break the rule. You’re not going to breaking rules every single day? Then why feel sorry or guilty?

Instead take Action! That one small baby step.

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Ate desserts? Fine! Stick to your regular tomorrow.

Missed Zumba for 2 weeks? Fine! Start going in the 3rd week.

Didn’t choose your baby over your phone? Fine! Choose your baby now.

Couldn’t close on that deadline? Fine! A day or two late, isn’t very bad!!

Take Action!! Choose Action over Guilt!! Cuz Action takes you forward 🙂