The perfect contradiction!

My latest art piece titled: the perfect contradiction

My art works take me to such deep levels of understanding, that every piece leaves me amazed and awestruck.

This one is created for an artist, who is into performing arts: the making of movies/ short films, is into acting and is totally a gifted photographer..

This painting took me the longest and the shortest time for creation..It is just how I’d imagined it to be and yet totally different from what I’d expected..

It is layered and yet ‘crystal clear’y transparent..

It has been a ‘work in progress’ for the longest time, and yet it took about ten minutes for me to finish it❤️🎁

How can there be so many contradictions, n yet life is perfect????

It’s so because it just is.

What’s your truth???

A parallel world exists of parallel truths!

It’s not our business to prove to the world the ‘rightness’ of our truth! Our business is to choose wisely, the ‘truth’ we’re investing our energy in!!

N then express this beautiful truth in kind n sweet ways!

It’s not tough to remember this! Just tedious sometimes cuz the mind is a monkey, jumping from one futile thought to another..

~aryaa 

The only work!!

The only work, we came here for doing is the work of listening to the call of our hearts!! 

Our hearts never give up on us!!

They keep calling us, hoping that we’d perhaps listen n follow it’s trail..

Lucky are those who against all ‘sanity’ follow their hearts cuz they are the ones who are finally victorious 🎁

The world is playing safe!! We didn’t come here to play safe..

We came here to be excited with the nervousness of trying something new, that our heart wants to follow..

We came here for the journey .. not the destination 

Trust

Trust vs fear, fear comes easily thanks to generations of programming our minds with the belief ‘fear is what keeps us safe’

While our brain does that so as to not let us step outside our comfort zone, thus keeping us safe (sighs), our soul really can take care of it..

Trusting that everything will work out is a far better feeling than what if it doesn’t..

N by practice, we can nudge ourselves into making this choice!!

This is only n only a reminder to my self, that trust is all I’ve got!! Cuz it’s gotten me here, to a career that I can finally call mine (after sampling more than three careers that failed)

N it’s gotten me home!!

Trust n trust more folks♥️

Dont Darofy… Simply Karofy… Just Mohabbat!!!

A popular hindi show being aired in India in the late 1990’s had this title track – Dont Darofy …Simply Karofy… Just Mohabbat!! meaning dont fear… simply fall in love!! Though i never really followed the show, the catchy title track cudnt go unnoticed.

Why n how did i suddenly get reminded of this title track? Will come to it in a minute..

Am not really in my best of moods now at this very moment, n penning down my thoughts isnt really a good idea!! But what if it is? May be, blogging is my ‘Pick me up’ n it really is one of those nice things like shopping, that can make me feel better.. without my wallet feeling any lighter 😉 woww !! See, im already feeling quite better 🙂

So coming back to track.. why did i think of this title song.. especially when im not feeling all that gr8.. I remembered the song.. Cuz  my interpretation of these lyrics, although quite different than that of the creative folks of the show, does make some sense! rather a lot of sense, atleast it does to me!!

Why do we feel low sometimes? Why do we give up on our loved ones?  Why do we feel helpless and view ourselves as if we are getting victimised?  Are we really out of control of the situation? or we just like to believe so?

I have found my answers to these questions. Its cuz of FEAR!! What fear?

Fear of not being accepted, fear of being let down by others, fear of not being understood…And what does this fear lead us to?

Fear of not being accepted leads to a feeling that the real me may not be liked by others so we fail to express ourselves completely. Thats still quite alright! we may be able to manage it at times.

Fear of being let down by others makes us wary n doubting. We are unable to trust people around us. Think about it!

Ive been in corporate life for 4 looooong years n the major reason i cudnt really gel well with the people around me was  that i doubted everyone to be politically alligned. I thought people may misuse info shared by me n put me down. My previous job gave me bitter experiences n I never could return to my real self, my true self, the Shraddha that i knew before i onboarded the corporate bandwagon. So the fear of being let down by others doesnt help yet its still kinda manageable!!

But what happens when we fear of not being understood? We start assuming that people around us are incapable of connecting to us , perceiving things from our angle and so… we start living a belief .. a very dangerous belief that no one understands us.. no one cares and so… we start believing that “there is absolutely no point communicating with them”. Think about it!!

Arent there situations, where we avoid communication completely? Maybe with friends, peers,colleagues, bosses,our parents, siblings, spouse, our family members, our loved ones?  A small assumption like this one, ends up creating a huge distance between cherishable bonds, between beautiful relationships. The cause of this huge crater of distance is.. guess what? An unreal fear of not being understood.

So why fear? We all are here for a short while! Just a few units of decades… may be for a few of us, ten decades, thats all!! Where are we heading towards after that? Same place …n the same old routine… fear.. hurt..fear …distance..hurt..period.

So lets shift gears for a while. Dump the fear! Let it happen..

let people not accept me… let them put me down.. let them not understand me… its okay!! I’l still accept them, I’l still unhate them, maybe il still love them, n yes..il still communicate..i’l not stop communicating …cuz end of communication is the beginning of a loooooooooooong gap..

Il Not Darofy!! Il Simply Karofy!! Just Mohabbat!!

The MAGIC of Acknowledgement!

I wonder how i survived all these years, without really knowing the intent & meaning behind this long word ‘ACKNOWLEDGEMENT’. I remember faintly,reading this word on the second page of my black book (my Final Year Engg Project). So silly of me- an Engineer awaiting my degree, not knowing what is really meant by Acknowledgement !!

A simple act of  recognising a person – for something that is really wonderful about him/ her & more importantly letting them know about this !! We kinda know it but seldom apply it!

Today, when i sit here reflecting back -after 2 wonderful sessions on the MAGIC word, i am forced to answer for myself -If I received 50 % more acknowledgement than I do today,in the next 5 yrs of my life ,how different would my life be? And i go on to answer- ‘My life definitely will be unimaginable’ !!

And why is that ? ‘Cuz Acknowledgement shifts the focus from “what went wrong” to “What went really well” thus focusing on strengths rather than on weaknesses’

‘With more acknowledgement,I see myself more confident of taking up challenges, thus celebrating my strengths. I see myself feeling happy & confident of all the attempts I make, even though they don’t end up as successes.I trust the potential I have, & my capability to succeed.With more acknowledgement, I see myself as a very beautiful person, who doesn’t find faults with others or within self but seeks to see the beauty & strengths in other people :)’ And it surely feels empowering 🙂

I simply have to make up my mind that instead of picking  faults, IM GONNA SEE WHATS REALLY BEAUTIFUL!! And yes, am gonna tell them whats so beautiful about them!! And it does not make me any less beautiful!!
Because -as rightly quoted in my module- ‘ To be able to acknowledge ourselves or someone else we cannot be needy. Acknowledgement is a very pure form of giving. We can only give if we are well topped up. To acknowledge another person means you have to move beyond yourself and see them only’
Wow!!! Id SO like to acknowledge myelf here- for my courage to share my blog with all of you.And i want to acknowledge & thank each one of you for your patience & time for putting up with me all this while. 🙂  Indeed a gr8 job:)
So friends- When are we playing this magic?After all, a word from us could mean a lot to others ,without us having to pay much!!