Be*ability vs. Likeability

Is it really our true nature to exist in ways that make us likeable?

I think not! 

We may have gotten ourselves trained, generations after generations, in the most undetectable manner, to exist in a way that gets us rave reviews..

It is funny how the streak of ‘being me’ as opposed to being liked just kept getting stronger n grew up on me!! 

As a girl in school, I remember feeling awkward after a bad haircut (read super short) n yet told myself how it would grow back.. 

I’ve actually cut my hair short so many times in my life, just for that thrill of telling myself, it’s okay!! 

It’s worth it to experiment rather than play safe!

It’s worth it to have lost my likeability for some be*ability..

I know I’m still that girl! Id like to think that I care rarely about what people think of me. Very few get me!! N times when I try to convince people why I do what I do, I seem insane..

It’s not possible for this world to get me!! Not in a sad way.. but a super positive way.. 

every one is busy figuring their path! Some are trying to work out a likeable path, some the be*able.. 

n it’s not possible for everyone to get me! Cuz their work is to get them self..

I get me!! N thats enough..

Even when the world wants to know if I completed that course I was pursuing (yes! I did!) n what I achieved after finishing it (nothing to be precise in your words) 

What I got??? 

I got the strength to be this crazy girl (not woman), who desires to be a jack of all trades, cuz one trade for one life seems boring..

I wanna paint, I wanna sing, I wanna play with my son, I wanna wear dungrees, I wanna teach others how easy painting is, I wanna be a super coach who allows others to BE rather than BE LIKED.. 

I wanna ace at insuring people’s lives with life insurance, I wanna travel the world, I wanna trust this path..

I wanna be in ever connection with my highest self..

I wanna be Shraddha! I wanna be Aryaa 

🙂

Shraddha makes mistakes, n Aryaa accepts them.. 

Shraddha feels insecure, feels less confident! Aryaa holds her hand, tells her it’s okay! 


Who am I? 

I am both! I feel insecure at the slight drop of a hat, just as easily I feel strong n forgiving!!

The more I reach out to my loving self, the one that lets me look silly, the one that lets me take ‘too high the risks’… the more I allow, the more I feel love towards others..

N at no point am I totally one hundred percent of either!! I am always this eclectic mix of proportions, of this girl I used to be n the girl I am becoming..

N I am in love with who she is becoming..

Fierce in her commitment to choose this weird multi passionate, multi career life.. 

it’s people’s work to tell u,that ure a fool to believe that u could be successful at multiple businesses when ure not even breaking even at one.. 

it’s your work to keep your alignment, n keep choosing this fine tuned, accurately curated life for yourself, irrespective of the flawed measurement of success..

Cuz in the end, you get to say ‘this is exactly how I wanted it to be’

~ love

Aryaa 

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Thank you!


If I have ever crossed paths with you, virtually or may be in real life,

I owe you a thank you 🎁

If you have ever been, even the faintest reason behind my smiles, while I was reading something you posted on fb,or said to me in person,

I owe you a thank you🎁

If you have ever given me courage, when I needed it the most, or maybe when I didn’t, or spoken words of wisdom with a pure intention in your heart,

I owe you a thank you🎁

If you have ever wished well for me, in my failure or my success, in my illness or my wellness, in my lows or highs 

I owe you a thank you🎁

If you have ever been my friend,someone I’ve lost touch with, or a fb friend or virtual or a good one, who has made life lighter and more joyful, 

I owe you a thank you🎁

If you’ve been worried about me, or my progress or the perceived lack of it, with well intentions at heart,

I owe you a thank you🎁

If you’re my family, that has lost touch with me in these fast times, n remember me for good reasons (n not cuz I was a cranky girl 😍) with joy in your heart,

I’m already thankful for you🎁

If I have ever angered you, or been a cause of stress (my amma 😘) , have made it tough for you to accept me cuz I’m weirdness personified (aks) , made you question the status quo , 

I owe you a thank you🎁

If you have even faintly heard or thought or spoken of me, with well intentions 

I owe you a thank you🎁

To everyone who I’ve seen, met, heard, spoken to, shared great times with, had tough times with, 

Thank you🎁

If not for that lady in the train, who fought daily, I wouldn’t have asked for peace

If not for my beautiful job, that didn’t fit me, I wouldn’t have searched for my right fit

If not for all the difficulties and hardships in this world, I wouldn’t have asked for ease n effortlessness

If not for the frustration these times call for, I wouldn’t have demanded contentment 

Thank you my beautiful world 🎁

Today, I accept you with an open loving heart, and let you weave your magic over me..

Cuz who I was yesterday is a forgotten tale

N who I am becoming is the real game 🎁

Thank you!

What if !!!!

A tiny strand of some self limiting belief is generally the culprit that gets in our way ..

A speck of fear that’s really an opportunity towards more fun, gets blown up into this huge block..

One realizes this only after finding the courage to move beyond fear n lo n behold.. it was all a farce..

I’ve thrashed at least four such ‘false n yet held true’ beliefs with my super coach in the last few months! They were causing havoc in my life ..

N so much happens just by being open n willing to talk about these fears n kinda jump into them..

You get to see it yourself! You get to strip your ‘limiting belief’ off all the power you gave it n you get to see it banished out of your life..

I’d love to share few of the self limiting beliefs I got to thrash n kick out of my life (thanks to my super coach Jon) :

~ I have to change myself n ‘fit in’ in order to make it work

~ I have to step into that awkward zone if I wanna ace in selling

~ My studio (I super love both my studios even when I gave power to this Bs belief) isn’t worth raving about cuz in the eyes of the world it’s not perfect 

N quite a few more related to my ‘mommy beliefs’ 

Thank god I thrashed them outta my system!

I feel great believing my life is exactly how I imagine it to be! Easy, effortless, dreamy, unbelievably magnificent!!!

N probably a year from now, fb will share this post on my wall, n I will have proof of how quickly my life steered into the right direction , thanks to me dumping my kinda good friend FEAR for FUN😍

Hope this fear keeps coming into my life regularly, allowing me to expand n grow by thrashing all the beliefs that are causing it in the first place.. 

love

aryaa

Ps: Love your life n chuck ‘what-you-think-the-world-thinks’

Choose!!!

Quitting a full time job for ‘something I didn’t quite know’ makes so much more sense now, than ever!!!

When I quit my job back in 2011, I had no idea ‘for what’ was I leaving something this stable..

N now, after years of ‘not giving up’ on myself beyond the lows n highs, n holding on to one tiny string of authenticity, I know beyond doubt ..that girl in that job : wasn’t me at all!!!

This is ME!!

Me having fun with my son, after school is ME!!

Me spending time alone in my studio, wrestling with an art piece is ME!!

Me playing with colors, and words, is ME!!

Me watching movies, and diving deep into myself ..thanks to them is ME!!

Me showing up with my coaches, every single week after week is ME!!

Me, swearing never to wear formals, cuz it just doesn’t feel like me is ME!!

Me, choosing to stay out of the kitchen, cuz it doesn’t feel like me is ME!!!

Me, choosing everything that feels good n abandoning everything else that doesn’t is ME!!!

Simply knowing what I deeply wanted out of life has been enough for me to get there..

N somehow, that knowing didn’t come easy.. 

it’s taken me a whole long infinite times of choosing n re choosing to finally know what feels good n what doesn’t..

So!!!

Choose!!! Every single time you get to choose : Just Choose!

Red or Yellow : choose rather than randomly picking..

If you wanna go random : choose Random!!!

But choose!!

Every single choice, the food you choose, the shoes, the colors, clothes, music, movies, art, hobbies, work,places to go on vacation : every thing together makes you!!

N if you have one choice to fine tune that YOU: go for it!!

With time, you will be your best friend ♥️

Tiny steps🎁 Big leap♥️

Ever wondered, how we got this big, grew up into being who we are today??
As far as I remember, a moment at a time,a day at a time, a year at a time♥️

N my dreamy studio that is at the center of my life (with my family) started with tiny wishes..

Wishes of being crazy for ‘creating stuff’♥️ be it cards, notes or posters or whatever.. 

N I wanna thank all those tiny wishes that have grown into me dreaming of having my STUDIO 😍

One such tiny wish was this zig zag scissor,now a proud resident of my studio😘😍

This scissor has been on my wish list since I was a kid🎁

My mom used to have one which was only used for fabric! N I loved how a zigzag could be created with super ease..

So one day, back in 2011, after work, I went to Crawford Market, (in South Mumbai) which is the market for kinda everything under the sun..

N this was my first buy! It was ‘expensive’ I remember with respect to how much cash I had in my wallet, n yet I chose to buy it.. n it has served me super well..

All those cards I’ve made, n all the crafty stuff I’ve created so far, I’ve always loved to use a zigzag edge ..

It reminds me of how special I am (just like everyone else) without really doing much..

N I guess this was one of the first family member of my ‘dreamy n unplanned, unintended studio’ ..

Not to forget the hoards of paper I still love to gorge on, n my open heart that is super excited to create every time I’m inspired♥️

This is how my new, ‘recently moved in’ garage studio looks like♥️

A pic of the garage (even before I grabbed it for my studio space)

A dream catcher to keep the ‘I cant’s’ away♥️



Moral of the story: it’s okay to have a tiny wish today. It is okay to have a tiny belief..

Nurturing this one tiny belief can get us grow into a big venture..anytime

Baby steps for an eventual huge leap♥️

Cheers

Aryaa

What makes me happy is….

My new studio, bubbling with energy, gearing up for me to start using it ❤️

Thinking about good times❤️
Three- person hugs from the two most handsome guys in my life❤️

Dressing up for the day ❤️

Accessories that keep coming into my life, n also getting lost, making space for more 😝

Traveling🎁


Playing with my son❤️

My beautiful feet, n beautiful toes, that gimme a chance to play with colours 🎁

GOT time with my hubby❤️

The blank canvas boards that literally make me feel hungry for some studio action❤️

Authentic living❤️

Writing quotes🙏


My son learning new stuff every day and expressing it in his cute lingo❤️

De cluttering my space/ home regularly 😍

My weekly coaching sessions with two extraordinary coaches❤️

Watching movies solo, on Netflix❤️
When my son asks me for hugs n keeps telling me repeatedly how cute I am 🎁

Asking for hugs n getting them instantly😍

Time out with nature🎁


Dreaming about travelling to Austria 😝

Sitting on the floor,gearing up for some hot oil for my hair kinda massage ❤️

Ekaansh’s school 😍

Thinking about all the art I’ve been able to create n all that’s on the way 🎁

Expressing gratitude❤️


When my son imitates me n says thank you out of habit to everyone who has served him❤️

Bath time with Eko❤️ (toy tea time)
Nachos 😜

Tea time with family ☕️

Movies on tv with the rest of my family🎁


Singing with Ekaansh😍

Wynk music 🎶

Colours around me 🌈

A good night’s sleep 😴

Singing in the shower 🎶

Fb 😝


Gifts🎁

Smiling faces😍

Long drives 🚗

The general weather in Mumbai 🌞🌤☀️🌩🌥⭐️

The gift of Languages 🤘

How I look 😍almost all of the times❤️


Hair color 😝 

Hair cuts😍😍😍

The way I live my life😍

Being a free spirit 🦄

Abraham hicks❤️

Thinking that people who choose differently are allowed their choices (by themselves most importantly)


My most awesome family🎁

Artists across the globe whose works I get to see n get inspired from 🎁

Chocolate 🙈

Iced tea🍹

Beach time😍

Remembering all my loved ones who’ve passed❤️

Easy Peasy🎁

Yes!

Life is as simple as that 🙂 

Even when we have a road block that has obstructed the view of everything ahead, just this one step can be a beacon of hope♥️

What lights you up?

Music, movies,a friend, pasta, nachos, a hug, a kid, chocolate???

An episode of GOT, a book, Netflix, iTunes, free music downloads, cutting chai??

A walk on the beach,fresh air out of your window, green trees outdoors, a hammock, yummy delight ???

A massage, a gift, a tour, a trip, a hike, spontaneous travel???

Anything that lights you up, will bring forth the light you endlessly shine through you..

Try it🎁